The feasts of All Saints and All Souls have turned our eyes toward heaven, we’re coming to the end of the Church year, and the Mass readings lead us to think about final things. This is an ideal time to visit a cemetery on some nice fall afternoon. If you’re lucky enough to live near one with the grave of a loved one the visit will have extra meaning, but either way, it is a holy and wholesome thought to pray for the dead and it just helps everyone in your family become more comfortable with the topic.
But what to do once you’re there? This article from Catholic Exchange has 7 excellent ideas with links to the details.
I recommend visiting the graves of our loved ones often to those who experienced the loss of a parent, sibling, child, or friend. Doing so is quite biblical. Jesus visited the tomb of Lazarus, only to call him out and raise him from the dead. On the morning of the Resurrection, Mary Magdalene was on her way to the tomb of Jesus to pay her respects, when she discovered the empty tomb. As we visit the graves of our loved ones, we do so in anticipation of that day when God will call forth the dead from their graves into the fullness of resurrected life. During the first 8 days of November, the Church strongly encourages and even incentivizes visits to cemeteries.
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